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Move Over, Outdated Happiness Theories: 7 Science-Based Ways to Seriously Boost Happiness

written by emmamseppala January 1, 2014
Move Over, Outdated Happiness Theories: 7 Science-Based Ways to Seriously Boost Happiness

“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything but they make the best of everything they have.”

Did you know that most of us live our lives according to outdated (or even false!) happiness theories? I wrote my book The Happiness Track to show you how small choices you make on a daily basis can actually give you tremendous happiness boosts (not to mention health benefits)! I’ve summarized some of the best predictors of happiness and tied each point to an in-depth article I’ve written on the subject so you can dive deeper into any one you choose.

1. Shake Off Self-criticism & Embrace Self-Compassion

Outdated Theory: Self-criticism and being hard on ourselves is a great way to get things done and be successful and strong.

What the Research Really Says: No way! A number of studies now show that self-criticism weakens us while self-compassion provides us with the skills we need for resilience, happiness and productivity (see this in-depth post on self-compassion).

2. Ditch the Complaints in Favor of Gratitude

Outdated Theory: It’s good to be realistic, which means realizing that life sucks.

What the Research Really Says: Nope!

– An analysis by Shelley Gable and Jonathan Haidt suggests that we actually have three times more positive experiences than negative. What keeps us from fully capitalizing on all the good in our lives, making us a slave to the bad? Our brain tends to focus on the negative and forget the positive. Gratitude is the perfect antidote and research shows it can be harnessed for greater health and well-being (read up on the latest gratitude research and try a gratitude meditation in this post).

– We also get caught up in an eternal chase for what we think will bring us happiness but that is nothing but a vicious cycle of desire (check out research on the fire of desire here). In this case again, our key to freedom and well-being is gratitude.

3. Replace Too Much Seriousness with Some Serious Play

Outdated Theory: Adults need to be serious. Play and idle fun is for children and pets.

What the Research Really Says: Wrong again! As adults, we often fail to remember to play, but research shows it boosts our creativity, health and well-being (read up on the science of play in this post).

4. Balance Stress with Breathing

Outdated Theory: Yea, yea, “take a deep breath” and all that jazz… There’s no reason to pay attention to the breath. We all know how to breathe, it happens on its own. Breathing differently won’t make a difference.

What the Research Really Says: Wrong! Research shows that your breath is intricately tied to your well-being and the state of your mind and that it holds the key to greater self-control and resilience (see here and here).

5. Balance Self-Focus with Compassion for Others

Outdated Theory: Everyone’s looking out for themselves, I need to focus on myself to get ahead in life.

What the Research Really Says: Wrong again!

– Self-focus is actually associated with anxiety and depression.

– We aren’t naturally selfish. Actually, our natural instinct is to act fairly. Compassion appears to be an evolutionarily adaptive trait that has tremendous health and well-being benefits (see here)

– Compassion will benefit your relationships, including your romantic relationships (see here)

– In fact compassion is the best kept secret to happiness (see here)

– It’s good for your business (see here)- Both men and women are wired for it (see here)

6. Balance Solitude with Connection

Outdated Theory: You’ve got to make it on your own, stand out, stand above the crowd, differentiate yourself and that, ultimately, is a lonely state of affairs.

What the Research Really Says:

– It significantly boosts your workplace success (see here)

– Our brains are wired for connection to others (see here).

– We thrive when we connect (see here).

– Loneliness can be balanced with connection. You can even learn to be together and connected even when alone (see here).

– Connection helps us overcome stress (see here).

– If you learn how to use technology and social media wisely (see here).

7. Balance Activity with Doing Nothing

Outdated Theory: I have to be productive every minute of the day to get things done and stay afloat.

What the Research Really Says: Wrong! You’ll get more done by doing more of nothing!

– When you’re doing nothing – your brain is actually in active problem-solving mode, your creative juices are flowing (see here)

– Research shows it’s good for you and your productivity (see here)

– A great way to get started is meditation (see here for 20 scientific reasons to start today)

– Turning your attention inward is a secret to well-being that the brain is built for (see here for the brain’s ability to look within).

Sometimes we worry that being happy is selfish or that it is unproductive. Taking care of yourself and your happiness and reaching out to others with compassion and kindness are powerful ways for you not only to boost your happiness, but your  relationships and career success as well.

Move Over, Outdated Happiness Theories: 7 Science-Based Ways to Seriously Boost Happiness was last modified: August 11th, 2017 by emmamseppala

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7 comments

roger stockham January 1, 2014 - 9:55 pm

I really like the thrust of your work. Have you read ” flow ” , by mihaly csikczentmihalyi ?

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Emma Seppala Ph.D. January 1, 2014 - 10:45 pm

I love his work! It’s fantastic.

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Avinash July 31, 2014 - 5:18 pm

Thank you so much for all these wonderful blog posts! As an Indian I was taught about the benefits of yogic breathing a.k.a., pranayam, a long while ago. I practiced it quite earnestly also, but somewhere down the line I lost touch with it, in the process, also lost touch with my own inner self. But working on mindfulness research rekindled it slowly, and reading your blog posts was inspirational once again. I now do mindfulness meditation for about 5-8 minutes a day (I was into transcendental meditation a few years ago!). It may seem pretty less but to me its a big start once again 🙂 A big thanks to you! I am trying to hook my Mom also unto this now. S

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Emma Seppala Ph.D. August 11, 2014 - 3:18 am

Wonderful! So glad to hear!

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Jonathon September 21, 2014 - 1:53 pm

Appreciating the persisgence you put into your site and detailed information you
present. It’s good to come across a blog every once in a while that isn’t the same outdated rehashed
information. Wonderful read! I’ve bookmarked your site
and I’m adding your RSS feeds tto my Google account.

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Kirstie December 6, 2014 - 12:48 am

Great Post! I now have good reason to lay and be idle this weekend.

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Alla February 9, 2016 - 9:46 pm

Haljelulah! I needed this-you’re my savior.

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